Perpetual Saturday

Friday:  the Crucifixion and unexpected devastation Saturday:  the hopeless sorrow; when will it end? Sunday:  the Resurrection Book Recommendation:  After Shock by Kent Annan Three weeks after the earthquake in Port-au-Prince, Haiti, which killed about 230,000 people, Kent Annan recaps unexpected devastation, endless sorrows and small resurrections in his book: He describes taking it all…

A case for Biblical counseling

Agreeably true that Biblical counseling and secular counseling usually begin with the same objective:  to bring change and hopeful renewal.   Survivors of trauma jump into a new constant, a new normal, fight or flight mindset  disproportionate to life before the trauma.  The smoke detector vs watch tower metaphor recalibrates the brain’s perception of danger or…

a fallow field

To be left desolate and unattended is as damaging as an aggressive misdiagnosis in the case of troubled children. Eighty two percent of traumatized children seen in the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, according to Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk, do not meet diagnostic criteria for Post- Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). PTSD involving a serious…

The prefix- “re”

Reassign Rebuild Restore Redeem “There is freedom to choose which side we shall be on but no freedom to negotiate the results of the choice once it is made.  By the mercy of God we may repent a wrong choice and alter the consequences by making a new and right choice. Beyond that we cannot…

A counselor’s note

The human emergency is like the boat in the storm ~ while Jesus is napping.  It would be better for us to curl up at his feet and hold on for dear life to his hem ; but we usually don’t; neither did Peter or John. We scream, “Do something!  Fix it!  Now!”  In a…

It’s not you, it’s me

Like two people who had been in love and then one asks for space. “It’s not you.  It’s me.” However, this is not what you think it would be.  This is actually a snippet from a passionate believer’s darkest outpourings to God.  In the counseling session she could calmly state her faith in God:  “God…

Don’t worry about God~

“Were all human beings suddenly to become blind, still the sun would shine by day and the stars by night, for these owe nothing to the millions who benefit from their light. So, were every man on earth to become atheist, it could not affect God in any way. He is what He is in…

or Merry Crisis?

“Who has understood the mind of the Lord, or instructed him as his counselor?” ~Isaiah 40 Gathering the lambs in his arms and carrying them close to his heart there is no more reason to fear the dark.  He is the path to understanding and meaning to the meaningless. The holidays highlight families in unity…

Separated from the stars

What has it been which has separated you from assumptive living so far?  Will you ever make a come-back?  Come back. Contamination of our beliefs, goals, sense of meaning  and purpose can quickly thrust us into the chaos and trauma of the unexpected. While counseling grief and trauma survivors, the definition for trauma will take…

not yet

I listened to an inspirational message on “joy.”  The Bible teacher made reference to living fiercely and intentionally; not in dread.  It was a well done sermon saturated in Truth, but I waited for what never came.  The missing component of “not yet.” I wished during the last 5 minutes or so of his sermon…

Keeping the porch light on.

  Waiting requires Faith. Like, keeping the porch light on. The house has shifted the last five years.  I still think 200 hundred times a day, “If I call and ask you, can you come home?” It is raining again, but I slip on my boots to trudge out to the car port since it has…

Backed into a corner

Lord, your beauties, babies and saints are backed into a corner. We are trying to be a credible resource when the world is tilted and upside down. I just spoke with my friend who incredulously retold the story of her cousin captured, murdered and his body destroyed by the enemy …Muslim, Christian, and governmental chaos…