Sticky

“Some people will linger at the cheap carnival to eat widget-food and devour mystical entertainment while others go to the front line to fight and to bring cool drink for the sake of others; to earn a crown of beauty.”             ~Anonymous

A circle of quiet

A Circle of Quiet, ( The Crosswicks Journal) by Madeleine L’Engle is a small collection and reflection on faith. Madeleine is vulnerably profound when teaching students.  Specifically when it comes to faith & writing.  She recites a particular seminar with high school students which struck me. When asked if Madeleine really and truly believed in…

Using theater to heal trauma

Improv and theater may be methods which can be used in a smaller group setting to confront painful realities of life.  Re-enacting or watching a real life conflict through voice and script can be the key  to confronting the trauma where traditional cognitive behavior would not suffice or hit the mark. The theater examples outlined…

At the edge of our inabilities

To become whole, healed and hearty; we have to befriend and reconcile with ourselves by not trying harder to produce something we cannot. Do you know what people do with ruins?  They scan silently, reverently, and assess the sacred holy; sometimes taking pictures to remember and thank God it did not happen to them or…

Beyond the limits of language

“In art, either as creators or as participators, we are helped to remember all of the glorious things we have forgotten, and some of the terrible things we are asked to endure, we who are children of God by adoption and grace.”     ~Madeline L’Engle Art, music and dance therapy circumvent the wordless description for…

A postcard from here~

Order and symmetry. Light and reachable. Manageable inventory. “Dear you, Everything is fine.  I’m fine. Love, me” Counselors have access to internal family systems (IFS), which include a “manager” whom methodically works from a cool, productive platform. Systems protect the wounded self, and the default behaviors that respond to outdated assumptions (stuck in the past)…

The girl next door

Gently.  Have you locked eyes with her lately? God, Christ, and the Angels care about the girl next door. Groceries on her hip, sad eyes, and a handful of outgoing garbage in the other. The Angels observe. Maybe she is hungry.  It is cold. Should you ask? No.  That would be weird…maybe. The fruits of…

Why a counselor needs the Bible

What to do with sin and evil God is the God of order and spoken word.  He calls into order His creation and we are who He says we are.   This brings us to the chasm that secular counseling cannot bridge. The unburdening for each of us to know there is a God who…

What can nature teach us?

Faithful is who God is, we withstand the winter hoping for what lays beneath The sun will rise in the morning. Changes will proactively come by God’s tender handiwork. We are on our way.

Perpetual Saturday

Friday:  the Crucifixion and unexpected devastation Saturday:  the hopeless sorrow; when will it end? Sunday:  the Resurrection Book Recommendation:  After Shock by Kent Annan Three weeks after the earthquake in Port-au-Prince, Haiti, which killed about 230,000 people, Kent Annan recaps unexpected devastation, endless sorrows and small resurrections in his book: He describes taking it all…

A case for Biblical counseling

Agreeably true that Biblical counseling and secular counseling usually begin with the same objective:  to bring change and hopeful renewal.   Survivors of trauma jump into a new constant, a new normal, fight or flight mindset  disproportionate to life before the trauma.  The smoke detector vs watch tower metaphor recalibrates the brain’s perception of danger or…

a fallow field

To be left desolate and unattended is as damaging as an aggressive misdiagnosis in the case of troubled children. Eighty two percent of traumatized children seen in the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, according to Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk, do not meet diagnostic criteria for Post- Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). PTSD involving a serious…